| Death is something people dont want to think | | | | about the loss. What caused it and the things |
| about. This just makes the person feel so bad | | | | that were done to stop this especially if |
| inside and make one think if this could be | | | | this was a fatal disease. This should go on |
| have been prevented. | | | | to better things such as at last the pain is |
| | | | over and he or she is in a better place. |
| The truth is death is another phase in life. | | | | |
| By learning how to cope with this when it | | | | It will be better to remember the good times |
| happens in the family, the individual will be | | | | shared and what made the individual stand out |
| able to express the same amount of sympathy | | | | over others. |
| and concern when this happens to a loved one | | | | |
| or a friend. | | | | 8. Life goes on after the deceased has been |
| | | | buried. Since the friend has other |
| Here are some tips of showing concern when | | | | obligations such as work and other duties for |
| this happens to others. | | | | the family, it wouldnt hurt to give the |
| | | | grieved a call to check up on things or a |
| 1. Upon learning of the loss, the friend | | | | visit every so often. |
| should go to the wake and pay some respects. | | | | |
| Saying a few words of comfort are the best | | | | The individual will surely appreciate this |
| way to console anyone in that situation. | | | | more than anything since other people will |
| | | | just be there during the wake and the funeral |
| 2. If the individual is a businessman and the | | | | and that is just about it. |
| deceased was a regular client, perhaps | | | | |
| sending flowers will be the best way to thank | | | | 9. The death of a friend is a shock and |
| the person for the patronage in the past. | | | | painful to those who are present. The person |
| This can also be done to an employee for the | | | | can step up and say a few kind words during |
| years served in making the company grow. | | | | the eulogy as a reminder of how important |
| | | | this man or woman was in the life of the |
| 3. The friend may not be able to give much to | | | | individual. |
| the grieving family. Those in the office can | | | | |
| put up a collection and give this instead. It | | | | 10. Funerals are costly. Writing a check to |
| doesnt matter how much it is but just the | | | | cover certain expenses is another way to show |
| thought is what counts the most. | | | | sympathy for the family who experienced a |
| | | | loss. If the money wont be accepted, perhaps |
| 4. Some people are not able to say the right | | | | giving this away to a charity in honor of the |
| things during this time of grief. Should this | | | | deceased will be more appropriate. |
| happen, perhaps it will be a good idea to | | | | |
| wait a month before putting something down in | | | | 11. Another nice thing to do will be to hold |
| paper in the form of a letter or card as a | | | | a service for the deceased. A call should be |
| way of showing respect for what has happened. | | | | placed to the parish priest so the name of |
| | | | that individual will be mentioned together |
| 5. Mourning takes a long time. When the | | | | with others who have done the same. |
| grieved is ready, perhaps it is time to go | | | | |
| out and have some fun. This doesnt mean | | | | There are other ways to show sympathy for |
| watching a movie or going to the amusement | | | | someone who has suffered a loss. The religion |
| park. The friend should just do whatever the | | | | of the person is important to avoid making |
| other one wants. | | | | any mistakes. It is never easy for anyone to |
| | | | go through a tragic death. |
| 6. It is wrong to tell the other I know what | | | | |
| you are feeling, especially if the friend has | | | | The smallest gesture is more than enough in |
| never been in that situation before. Instead, | | | | this time of grief. By putting things aside |
| it will be better to say Im here if you want | | | | and spending time with those in that |
| someone to talk to. | | | | situation, this will really show if one is a |
| | | | true companion or not. |
| 7. In time, healing can begin by talking | | | | |