| Everyone wants to have a wonderful | | | | you'll never have a great relationship. If |
| relationship but they usually don't seem to | | | | you have a lot of responsibilities, strive to |
| make it a priority nor do they have the right | | | | eliminate tasks that are non-essential. A |
| skills. Learning to have an A+ relationship | | | | total commitment to your relationship will |
| doesn't have to be hard and boring. You can | | | | help you get your priorities in order. |
| make it fun and exciting. Getting good | | | | |
| grades in your relationship is easier than | | | | 5)Improve your vocabulary. Your language |
| you might think. | | | | will determine your destiny. Do your |
| | | | thoughts and words build up your relationship |
| If you want your relationship to improve, you | | | | or do they destroy it? Secretly thinking |
| can change it. Be the one to get things | | | | negative things about your partner is almost |
| started. Don't whine that you don't have | | | | as bad as saying them. Fill your mind and |
| time for this kind of stuff. Don't wait for | | | | your mouth with words that magnify a |
| your partner to make the first move. Don't | | | | wonderful future for your relationship. |
| take an approach of "I will if you will." | | | | |
| You need to be the one who gets it started. | | | | 6)Improve your memory. Remember all of the |
| | | | dates that are important to your |
| Scoring a low grade in your relationship is | | | | relationship. These include: anniversaries, |
| an indicator that you need to change your | | | | birthdays, Christmas, and of course, |
| approach. A wise woman once taught me that | | | | Valentine's Day. |
| "If you always do what you've always done; | | | | |
| you'll always get what you've always gotten." | | | | 7)Make sure your study area is comfortable. |
| It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure | | | | Clutter will distract you from focusing on |
| that one out. Before you change your | | | | your relationship. Get caught up on tasks |
| approach, you need to know what you are | | | | and keep your space clean. It is hard for |
| shooting for. What is the ideal vision you | | | | most women to relax when there are things |
| have for your relationship? Strive to be as | | | | that need to be done. Most men see a clean |
| specific as possible. By being clear about | | | | home as a reflection of your love for him. |
| what you want to accomplish you are more | | | | |
| likely to achieve your desired outcome. | | | | 8)Your ability to concentrate on your partner |
| | | | is crucial to scoring a higher grade in your |
| Follow these grade point enhancement | | | | relationship. Establish study rules. Make |
| strategies and you will be on your way to | | | | sure you spend time alone with your partner. |
| getting the A+ relationship you have always | | | | Your dates don't need to be about addressing |
| wanted: | | | | the problems in your relationship. The |
| | | | agenda needs to be about promoting the love |
| 1)Take time to assess what kind of partner | | | | you have for each other. I don't recommend a |
| you truly are. You can't start to improve | | | | specific date night for most couples but do |
| until you know who you are and how you | | | | schedule time together and whatever you do, |
| actually perform. It is easy to fool | | | | don't miss this class. |
| yourself into believing that you know all | | | | |
| there is to know about relationships. Even | | | | 9)Get a tutor or join a study group. If you |
| the experts will tell you that there is | | | | realize you are really lacking in skills then |
| always more to be learned. | | | | I suggest you get help. Seek the guidance of |
| | | | a therapist or join some type of group that |
| 2) Hold onto the hope that you can score a | | | | promotes relationship skills. Churches tend |
| high grade in your relationship. Positive | | | | to provide classes for instruction. These |
| expectation is an extremely powerful | | | | environments allow you to trade notes with |
| position. You become what you think about. | | | | others and learn from their successes and |
| See yourself as a great partner. See your | | | | failures. |
| partner as being extremely fulfilled in a | | | | |
| relationship with you. | | | | 10)Pay attention to what you are doing during |
| | | | the times you are really close and getting |
| 3)Keep away from people who try to belittle | | | | along. Do this consistently. If you need |
| your efforts. Negative people always try to | | | | help identifying these patterns, I suggest |
| make you feel stupid about trying to be | | | | you pull out old photographs of when the two |
| better. In school, I remember the bright | | | | of you first started dating. Back then you |
| students were commonly considered uncool or | | | | knew how to score big points with each other. |
| nerdy for getting good grades. I see people | | | | How did you think, talk, and act back then? |
| who are afraid to show their partner love and | | | | I worked once and most likely will work |
| respect for fear of what others might say or | | | | again. |
| think. Don't get caught up in these | | | | |
| concerns. Surround yourself with people who | | | | Just think what being a top student in your |
| have A+ relationships and are proud to love | | | | relationship will mean for you? No more |
| and respect their mate. | | | | hassles with C's or D's. No more worries |
| | | | about conflicts and dissatisfaction. You are |
| 4)Don't spend too much time deliberating when | | | | the one who will choose your own place in |
| you will commit yourself to becoming a great | | | | your relationship. Make the best choice, and |
| partner. Just do it. If you wait for the | | | | then go for it with everything you have |
| perfect time or a time in which you are | | | | within you. |
| caught up on your list of things to do, | | | | |