| Everyone wants to have a wonderful | | | | list of things to do, you'll never have |
| relationship but they usually don't seem | | | | a great relationship. If you have a lot |
| to make it a priority nor do they have | | | | of responsibilities, strive to eliminate |
| the right skills. Learning to have an | | | | tasks that are non-essential. A total |
| A+ relationship doesn't have to be hard | | | | commitment to your relationship will |
| and boring. You can make it fun and | | | | help you get your priorities in order. |
| exciting. Getting good grades in your | | | | 5)Improve your vocabulary. Your |
| relationship is easier than you might | | | | language will determine your destiny. |
| think. | | | | Do your thoughts and words build up your |
| If you want your relationship to | | | | relationship or do they destroy it? |
| improve, you can change it. Be the one | | | | Secretly thinking negative things about |
| to get things started. Don't whine that | | | | your partner is almost as bad as saying |
| you don't have time for this kind of | | | | them. Fill your mind and your mouth |
| stuff. Don't wait for your partner to | | | | with words that magnify a wonderful |
| make the first move. Don't take an | | | | future for your relationship. |
| approach of "I will if you will." You | | | | 6)Improve your memory. Remember all of |
| need to be the one who gets it started. | | | | the dates that are important to your |
| Scoring a low grade in your relationship | | | | relationship. These include: |
| is an indicator that you need to change | | | | anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, and |
| your approach. A wise woman once taught | | | | of course, Valentine's Day. |
| me that "If you always do what you've | | | | 7)Make sure your study area is |
| always done; you'll always get what | | | | comfortable. Clutter will distract you |
| you've always gotten." It doesn't take | | | | from focusing on your relationship. Get |
| a rocket scientist to figure that one | | | | caught up on tasks and keep your space |
| out. Before you change your approach, | | | | clean. It is hard for most women to |
| you need to know what you are shooting | | | | relax when there are things that need to |
| for. What is the ideal vision you have | | | | be done. Most men see a clean home as a |
| for your relationship? Strive to be as | | | | reflection of your love for him. |
| specific as possible. By being clear | | | | 8)Your ability to concentrate on your |
| about what you want to accomplish you | | | | partner is crucial to scoring a higher |
| are more likely to achieve your desired | | | | grade in your relationship. Establish |
| outcome. | | | | study rules. Make sure you spend time |
| Follow these grade point enhancement | | | | alone with your partner. Your dates |
| strategies and you will be on your way | | | | don't need to be about addressing the |
| to getting the A+ relationship you have | | | | problems in your relationship. The |
| always wanted: | | | | agenda needs to be about promoting the |
| 1)Take time to assess what kind of | | | | love you have for each other. I don't |
| partner you truly are. You can't start | | | | recommend a specific date night for most |
| to improve until you know who you are | | | | couples but do schedule time together |
| and how you actually perform. It is | | | | and whatever you do, don't miss this |
| easy to fool yourself into believing | | | | class. |
| that you know all there is to know about | | | | 9)Get a tutor or join a study group. If |
| relationships. Even the experts will | | | | you realize you are really lacking in |
| tell you that there is always more to be | | | | skills then I suggest you get help. |
| learned. | | | | Seek the guidance of a therapist or join |
| 2) Hold onto the hope that you can | | | | some type of group that promotes |
| score a high grade in your relationship. | | | | relationship skills. Churches tend to |
| Positive expectation is an extremely | | | | provide classes for instruction. These |
| powerful position. You become what you | | | | environments allow you to trade notes |
| think about. See yourself as a great | | | | with others and learn from their |
| partner. See your partner as being | | | | successes and failures. |
| extremely fulfilled in a relationship | | | | 10)Pay attention to what you are doing |
| with you. | | | | during the times you are really close |
| 3)Keep away from people who try to | | | | and getting along. Do this |
| belittle your efforts. Negative people | | | | consistently. If you need help |
| always try to make you feel stupid about | | | | identifying these patterns, I suggest |
| trying to be better. In school, I | | | | you pull out old photographs of when the |
| remember the bright students were | | | | two of you first started dating. Back |
| commonly considered uncool or nerdy for | | | | then you knew how to score big points |
| getting good grades. I see people who | | | | with each other. How did you think, |
| are afraid to show their partner love | | | | talk, and act back then? I worked once |
| and respect for fear of what others | | | | and most likely will work again. |
| might say or think. Don't get caught up | | | | Just think what being a top student in |
| in these concerns. Surround yourself | | | | your relationship will mean for you? No |
| with people who have A+ relationships | | | | more hassles with C's or D's. No more |
| and are proud to love and respect their | | | | worries about conflicts and |
| mate. | | | | dissatisfaction. You are the one who |
| 4)Don't spend too much time deliberating | | | | will choose your own place in your |
| when you will commit yourself to | | | | relationship. Make the best choice, and |
| becoming a great partner. Just do it. | | | | then go for it with everything you have |
| If you wait for the perfect time or a | | | | within you. |
| time in which you are caught up on your | | | | |