| The other day I was at the local gym in the midst of | | | | better at this than others, what can I say? Gradually |
| one of my all too-infrequent workouts when I spied | | | | try to do this with every girl that looks worthy of your |
| one of those A+ little foxes that make you forget how | | | | attention and slowly build up a catalog of astute |
| much weight you just dialed into the machine. I | | | | observations in your mind that go along with each one. |
| reflected on how the gym represents a kind of | | | | Then... when you finally DO get a chance to trade a |
| "so-near-yet-so-far" deal when it comes to meeting | | | | few words with one of these cuties, rather than |
| women because while they may be right there | | | | stumble and bumble around trying to say something |
| prancing around covered in sexy sweat, the | | | | amazing you'll have something cool and impressive |
| environment never really seems appropriate for | | | | already locked-and-loaded into your skull: "I saw your |
| meeting and flirting around as it does in a nightclub. | | | | floor set the other day and I was amazed by your ab |
| People are in a different frame of mind at the gym | | | | routine. You show off the results amazingly well..." you |
| and often broadcast a variety of non-verbal "stay | | | | casually flirt with her, "...any chance that you could take |
| away" signals that only the boldest dare challenge. | | | | me through side-by-side and show me how it's done? |
| However, after a little experimentation and some | | | | I've hit the wall on my old routine, I need a change-up." |
| intense pondering I think I may have identified a few | | | | And so there you've served up a nice little |
| nuggets hiding amidst this apparent wasteland, such as: | | | | personalized compliment that's relevant to the situation |
| 1) If they are locked-up in their own little i-pod universe, | | | | AND to her -- and is immediately working to spark her |
| they are most likely out of reach as far as a DIRECT | | | | up with some genuine admiration. Plus, your remark |
| approach is concerned. I-pods and portable radios are | | | | makes sense to her in this particular situation -- it's not |
| by far the biggest obstacle to socializing in the gym. | | | | just some canned line. |
| How do you break through to these chicks who are | | | | This is how the High Status Male makes his powerful |
| encapsulated in their own little world of sound and | | | | first impression! |
| obviously trying to lock the rest of us out? You can try | | | | Now you've made a friend that you can engage on a |
| saying something clever to them, and if they see your | | | | first name basis (you remembered to get her name, |
| lips moving will usually tear the headset off and ask | | | | right?) whenever you see her around the gym in the |
| "what?", but their annoyance at having to do so is | | | | future. And if the vibes (eye contact, smiles, her |
| apparent and this immediate negative posture is not | | | | laughing at your dumb jokes, etc.) look good, then at |
| easy to overcome. | | | | some point it's perfectly reasonable to step up and |
| About the only non-intrusive thing you CAN do is make | | | | escalate for a get together outside of the gym... right? |
| solid eye contact wherever possible and quickly shoot | | | | This is sensible, appropriate, measured and steadily |
| them a friendly smile, without actually saying anything | | | | escalating aggression. Non-aggressive males get |
| (since she can't hear anyway). If you get a good return | | | | nowhere with women. Remember that. |
| look from her then you may have a play, but I usually | | | | 3) Spinning is often the best thing going at the gym |
| store these up and wait to act on a similar positive | | | | because it's the closest thing there is to a nightclub-like |
| read next time, not immediately. Again, I think patience | | | | environment... the lights are down and the dance music |
| is needed here because women seem easily put off | | | | is thumping away. The high-cardio spinning pumps up |
| by intrusions into their mental workout zone -- so you | | | | the same adrenaline and other juicy-juices in the body |
| have to sort of wear these barriers down first in order | | | | that dancing does -- and you know how crazy |
| to set them up for a possible move later on. | | | | women are when it comes to dancing! |
| If you can pull a favorable eye contact reaction like this | | | | Of course, spinning classes and aerobics present the |
| on future encounters, then a bit of stop-and-chat might | | | | same type of problems that clubs do in that the noise |
| be in order and will certainly seem less offensive since | | | | and "action-distraction" levels make it hard to connect |
| the girl's given you some cause to open a convo with | | | | with anyone on anything other than a wholly superficial |
| her. Women know precisely how to use eye contact | | | | level. But you may have a chance to talk with her |
| to either chill-out or lure men towards them, so learn | | | | during the warm-ups or cool down after the class |
| how to follow their signals. While this laid-back sort of | | | | ends. Have you got that custom compliment all ready |
| "ticking" action might be a little too flim-flam for some | | | | to go? |
| of the more impatient among you, if you're looking to | | | | 4) It's going to take repeated tries to break through. |
| protect your ego and operate "without | | | | Because people are not really in "the mood" in this |
| embarrassment" as much as possible then watching | | | | environment it's tough to create a real buzz on a first |
| for these subtle signals is the best way to improve | | | | meet. It may take a few encounters to get her thinking |
| your chances of not getting blown off in public. | | | | about you in a romantic sense, if at all -- and so you |
| 2) Have one loaded in the chamber and ready to go | | | | have to play it cool. Pay her attention when it's |
| at all times. Your chances with women at the gym will | | | | appropriate to do so, but never slavishly. Certainly a |
| almost always seem to arrive out of the blue... a | | | | fine line has to be walked here. Remember that the |
| random encounter at a water cooler or while waiting | | | | EYES tell the whole story when it comes to women... |
| to get on a particular machine, etc. So if you're serious | | | | when your instincts tell you that you have an |
| about doing this stuff then you need to have | | | | interested female nibbling on your line, then that's the |
| something along the line of a Custom Compliment all | | | | time when you must surrender reason to those |
| figured out in advance and ready to use as an | | | | instincts and take action. |
| icebreaker for each and every woman that you might | | | | This stuff is not rocket science, it's really all about |
| possibly have any interest in. That's right, each one... so | | | | specific awareness plus some motivation. |
| keep your radar antenna always out and start paying | | | | Let's face it, gyms will probably never be the ideal |
| attention! | | | | environment for meeting women, but these simple |
| For instance, if you observe a chick who warms up | | | | ideas may give you a better chance to make a play in |
| with an elaborate floor routine that's focused on her | | | | a poor situation now and then. The way to view this |
| abs, then make note of it. Watch the routine closely | | | | entire deal is to welcome whatever opportunities you |
| and spot something unique like a certain move she | | | | can stir up in the gym as an ADJUNCT to your other |
| does or the extreme number of reps or whatever | | | | social activities -- not as your saving grace or the one |
| AND REMEMBER THAT. Link it up with something | | | | place where you're exclusively hanging out to meet |
| specific about that girl (give her some private, cutesy | | | | women. |
| name like "ab-work Annie" in your own head) to form | | | | Because there are far easier ways and means to get |
| a mental association, and then file this scrap of info | | | | an edge, as we'll discuss in future articles. |
| away into your memory bank. Some of you will be | | | | |