| The other day I was at the local gym in | | | | your memory bank. Some of you will be |
| the midst of one of my all | | | | better at this than others, what can I |
| too-infrequent workouts when I spied one | | | | say? Gradually try to do this with |
| of those A+ little foxes that make you | | | | every girl that looks worthy of your |
| forget how much weight you just dialed | | | | attention and slowly build up a catalog |
| into the machine. I reflected on how | | | | of astute observations in your mind that |
| the gym represents a kind of | | | | go along with each one. |
| "so-near-yet-so-far" deal when it comes | | | | Then... when you finally DO get a chance |
| to meeting women because while they may | | | | to trade a few words with one of these |
| be right there prancing around covered | | | | cuties, rather than stumble and bumble |
| in sexy sweat, the environment never | | | | around trying to say something amazing |
| really seems appropriate for meeting and | | | | you'll have something cool and |
| flirting around as it does in a | | | | impressive already locked-and-loaded |
| nightclub. People are in a different | | | | into your skull: "I saw your floor set |
| frame of mind at the gym and often | | | | the other day and I was amazed by your |
| broadcast a variety of non-verbal "stay | | | | ab routine. You show off the results |
| away" signals that only the boldest dare | | | | amazingly well..." you casually flirt |
| challenge. | | | | with her, "...any chance that you could |
| However, after a little experimentation | | | | take me through side-by-side and show me |
| and some intense pondering I think I may | | | | how it's done? I've hit the wall on my |
| have identified a few nuggets hiding | | | | old routine, I need a change-up." And |
| amidst this apparent wasteland, such as: | | | | so there you've served up a nice little |
| 1) If they are locked-up in their own | | | | personalized compliment that's relevant |
| little i-pod universe, they are most | | | | to the situation AND to her -- and is |
| likely out of reach as far as a DIRECT | | | | immediately working to spark her up with |
| approach is concerned. I-pods and | | | | some genuine admiration. Plus, your |
| portable radios are by far the biggest | | | | remark makes sense to her in this |
| obstacle to socializing in the gym. How | | | | particular situation -- it's not just |
| do you break through to these chicks who | | | | some canned line. |
| are encapsulated in their own little | | | | This is how the High Status Male makes |
| world of sound and obviously trying to | | | | his powerful first impression! |
| lock the rest of us out? You can try | | | | Now you've made a friend that you can |
| saying something clever to them, and if | | | | engage on a first name basis (you |
| they see your lips moving will usually | | | | remembered to get her name, right?) |
| tear the headset off and ask "what?", | | | | whenever you see her around the gym in |
| but their annoyance at having to do so | | | | the future. And if the vibes (eye |
| is apparent and this immediate negative | | | | contact, smiles, her laughing at your |
| posture is not easy to overcome. | | | | dumb jokes, etc.) look good, then at |
| About the only non-intrusive thing you | | | | some point it's perfectly reasonable to |
| CAN do is make solid eye contact | | | | step up and escalate for a get together |
| wherever possible and quickly shoot them | | | | outside of the gym... right? |
| a friendly smile, without actually | | | | This is sensible, appropriate, measured |
| saying anything (since she can't hear | | | | and steadily escalating aggression. |
| anyway). If you get a good return look | | | | Non-aggressive males get nowhere with |
| from her then you may have a play, but I | | | | women. Remember that. |
| usually store these up and wait to act | | | | 3) Spinning is often the best thing |
| on a similar positive read next time, | | | | going at the gym because it's the |
| not immediately. Again, I think | | | | closest thing there is to a |
| patience is needed here because women | | | | nightclub-like environment... the lights |
| seem easily put off by intrusions into | | | | are down and the dance music is thumping |
| their mental workout zone -- so you have | | | | away. The high-cardio spinning pumps up |
| to sort of wear these barriers down | | | | the same adrenaline and other |
| first in order to set them up for a | | | | juicy-juices in the body that dancing |
| possible move later on. | | | | does -- and you know how crazy women are |
| If you can pull a favorable eye contact | | | | when it comes to dancing! |
| reaction like this on future encounters, | | | | Of course, spinning classes and aerobics |
| then a bit of stop-and-chat might be in | | | | present the same type of problems that |
| order and will certainly seem less | | | | clubs do in that the noise and |
| offensive since the girl's given you | | | | "action-distraction" levels make it hard |
| some cause to open a convo with her. | | | | to connect with anyone on anything other |
| Women know precisely how to use eye | | | | than a wholly superficial level. But |
| contact to either chill-out or lure men | | | | you may have a chance to talk with her |
| towards them, so learn how to follow | | | | during the warm-ups or cool down after |
| their signals. While this laid-back | | | | the class ends. Have you got that |
| sort of "ticking" action might be a | | | | custom compliment all ready to go? |
| little too flim-flam for some of the | | | | 4) It's going to take repeated tries to |
| more impatient among you, if you're | | | | break through. Because people are not |
| looking to protect your ego and operate | | | | really in "the mood" in this environment |
| "without embarrassment" as much as | | | | it's tough to create a real buzz on a |
| possible then watching for these subtle | | | | first meet. It may take a few |
| signals is the best way to improve your | | | | encounters to get her thinking about you |
| chances of not getting blown off in | | | | in a romantic sense, if at all -- and so |
| public. | | | | you have to play it cool. Pay her |
| 2) Have one loaded in the chamber and | | | | attention when it's appropriate to do |
| ready to go at all times. Your chances | | | | so, but never slavishly. Certainly a |
| with women at the gym will almost always | | | | fine line has to be walked here. |
| seem to arrive out of the blue... a | | | | Remember that the EYES tell the whole |
| random encounter at a water cooler or | | | | story when it comes to women... when |
| while waiting to get on a particular | | | | your instincts tell you that you have an |
| machine, etc. So if you're serious | | | | interested female nibbling on your line, |
| about doing this stuff then you need to | | | | then that's the time when you must |
| have something along the line of a | | | | surrender reason to those instincts and |
| Custom Compliment all figured out in | | | | take action. |
| advance and ready to use as an | | | | This stuff is not rocket science, it's |
| icebreaker for each and every woman that | | | | really all about specific awareness plus |
| you might possibly have any interest in. | | | | some motivation. |
| That's right, each one... so keep your | | | | Let's face it, gyms will probably never |
| radar antenna always out and start | | | | be the ideal environment for meeting |
| paying attention! | | | | women, but these simple ideas may give |
| For instance, if you observe a chick who | | | | you a better chance to make a play in a |
| warms up with an elaborate floor routine | | | | poor situation now and then. The way to |
| that's focused on her abs, then make | | | | view this entire deal is to welcome |
| note of it. Watch the routine closely | | | | whatever opportunities you can stir up |
| and spot something unique like a certain | | | | in the gym as an ADJUNCT to your other |
| move she does or the extreme number of | | | | social activities -- not as your saving |
| reps or whatever AND REMEMBER THAT. | | | | grace or the one place where you're |
| Link it up with something specific about | | | | exclusively hanging out to meet women. |
| that girl (give her some private, cutesy | | | | Because there are far easier ways and |
| name like "ab-work Annie" in your own | | | | means to get an edge, as we'll discuss |
| head) to form a mental association, and | | | | in future articles. |
| then file this scrap of info away into | | | | |