| The other day I was at the local gym in the | | | | looks worthy of your attention and slowly |
| midst of one of my all too-infrequent | | | | build up a catalog of astute observations in |
| workouts when I spied one of those A+ little | | | | your mind that go along with each one. |
| foxes that make you forget how much weight | | | | |
| you just dialed into the machine. I | | | | Then... when you finally DO get a chance to |
| reflected on how the gym represents a kind of | | | | trade a few words with one of these cuties, |
| "so-near-yet-so-far" deal when it comes to | | | | rather than stumble and bumble around trying |
| meeting women because while they may be right | | | | to say something amazing you'll have |
| there prancing around covered in sexy sweat, | | | | something cool and impressive already |
| the environment never really seems | | | | locked-and-loaded into your skull: "I saw |
| appropriate for meeting and flirting around | | | | your floor set the other day and I was amazed |
| as it does in a nightclub. People are in a | | | | by your ab routine. You show off the results |
| different frame of mind at the gym and often | | | | amazingly well..." you casually flirt with |
| broadcast a variety of non-verbal "stay away" | | | | her, "...any chance that you could take me |
| signals that only the boldest dare challenge. | | | | through side-by-side and show me how it's |
| | | | done? I've hit the wall on my old routine, I |
| However, after a little experimentation and | | | | need a change-up." And so there you've |
| some intense pondering I think I may have | | | | served up a nice little personalized |
| identified a few nuggets hiding amidst this | | | | compliment that's relevant to the situation |
| apparent wasteland, such as: | | | | AND to her -- and is immediately working to |
| | | | spark her up with some genuine admiration. |
| 1) If they are locked-up in their own little | | | | Plus, your remark makes sense to her in this |
| i-pod universe, they are most likely out of | | | | particular situation -- it's not just some |
| reach as far as a DIRECT approach is | | | | canned line. |
| concerned. I-pods and portable radios are by | | | | |
| far the biggest obstacle to socializing in | | | | This is how the High Status Male makes his |
| the gym. How do you break through to these | | | | powerful first impression! |
| chicks who are encapsulated in their own | | | | |
| little world of sound and obviously trying to | | | | Now you've made a friend that you can engage |
| lock the rest of us out? You can try saying | | | | on a first name basis (you remembered to get |
| something clever to them, and if they see | | | | her name, right?) whenever you see her around |
| your lips moving will usually tear the | | | | the gym in the future. And if the vibes (eye |
| headset off and ask "what?", but their | | | | contact, smiles, her laughing at your dumb |
| annoyance at having to do so is apparent and | | | | jokes, etc.) look good, then at some point |
| this immediate negative posture is not easy | | | | it's perfectly reasonable to step up and |
| to overcome. | | | | escalate for a get together outside of the |
| | | | gym... right? |
| About the only non-intrusive thing you CAN do | | | | |
| is make solid eye contact wherever possible | | | | This is sensible, appropriate, measured and |
| and quickly shoot them a friendly smile, | | | | steadily escalating aggression. |
| without actually saying anything (since she | | | | Non-aggressive males get nowhere with women. |
| can't hear anyway). If you get a good return | | | | Remember that. |
| look from her then you may have a play, but I | | | | |
| usually store these up and wait to act on a | | | | 3) Spinning is often the best thing going at |
| similar positive read next time, not | | | | the gym because it's the closest thing there |
| immediately. Again, I think patience is | | | | is to a nightclub-like environment... the |
| needed here because women seem easily put off | | | | lights are down and the dance music is |
| by intrusions into their mental workout zone | | | | thumping away. The high-cardio spinning |
| -- so you have to sort of wear these barriers | | | | pumps up the same adrenaline and other |
| down first in order to set them up for a | | | | juicy-juices in the body that dancing does -- |
| possible move later on. | | | | and you know how crazy women are when it |
| | | | comes to dancing! |
| If you can pull a favorable eye contact | | | | |
| reaction like this on future encounters, then | | | | Of course, spinning classes and aerobics |
| a bit of stop-and-chat might be in order and | | | | present the same type of problems that clubs |
| will certainly seem less offensive since the | | | | do in that the noise and "action-distraction" |
| girl's given you some cause to open a convo | | | | levels make it hard to connect with anyone on |
| with her. Women know precisely how to use | | | | anything other than a wholly superficial |
| eye contact to either chill-out or lure men | | | | level. But you may have a chance to talk |
| towards them, so learn how to follow their | | | | with her during the warm-ups or cool down |
| signals. While this laid-back sort of | | | | after the class ends. Have you got that |
| "ticking" action might be a little too | | | | custom compliment all ready to go? |
| flim-flam for some of the more impatient | | | | |
| among you, if you're looking to protect your | | | | 4) It's going to take repeated tries to break |
| ego and operate "without embarrassment" as | | | | through. Because people are not really in |
| much as possible then watching for these | | | | "the mood" in this environment it's tough to |
| subtle signals is the best way to improve | | | | create a real buzz on a first meet. It may |
| your chances of not getting blown off in | | | | take a few encounters to get her thinking |
| public. | | | | about you in a romantic sense, if at all -- |
| | | | and so you have to play it cool. Pay her |
| 2) Have one loaded in the chamber and ready | | | | attention when it's appropriate to do so, but |
| to go at all times. Your chances with women | | | | never slavishly. Certainly a fine line has |
| at the gym will almost always seem to arrive | | | | to be walked here. Remember that the EYES |
| out of the blue... a random encounter at a | | | | tell the whole story when it comes to |
| water cooler or while waiting to get on a | | | | women... when your instincts tell you that |
| particular machine, etc. So if you're | | | | you have an interested female nibbling on |
| serious about doing this stuff then you need | | | | your line, then that's the time when you must |
| to have something along the line of a Custom | | | | surrender reason to those instincts and take |
| Compliment all figured out in advance and | | | | action. |
| ready to use as an icebreaker for each and | | | | |
| every woman that you might possibly have any | | | | This stuff is not rocket science, it's really |
| interest in. That's right, each one... so | | | | all about specific awareness plus some |
| keep your radar antenna always out and start | | | | motivation. |
| paying attention! | | | | |
| | | | Let's face it, gyms will probably never be |
| For instance, if you observe a chick who | | | | the ideal environment for meeting women, but |
| warms up with an elaborate floor routine | | | | these simple ideas may give you a better |
| that's focused on her abs, then make note of | | | | chance to make a play in a poor situation now |
| it. Watch the routine closely and spot | | | | and then. The way to view this entire deal |
| something unique like a certain move she does | | | | is to welcome whatever opportunities you can |
| or the extreme number of reps or whatever AND | | | | stir up in the gym as an ADJUNCT to your |
| REMEMBER THAT. Link it up with something | | | | other social activities -- not as your saving |
| specific about that girl (give her some | | | | grace or the one place where you're |
| private, cutesy name like "ab-work Annie" in | | | | exclusively hanging out to meet women. |
| your own head) to form a mental association, | | | | |
| and then file this scrap of info away into | | | | Because there are far easier ways and means |
| your memory bank. Some of you will be better | | | | to get an edge, as we'll discuss in future |
| at this than others, what can I say? | | | | articles. |
| Gradually try to do this with every girl that | | | | |