Four Steps to Meeting Women at the Gym

The other day I was at the local gym in the midst ofbetter at this than others, what can I say? Gradually
one of my all too-infrequent workouts when I spiedtry to do this with every girl that looks worthy of your
one of those A+ little foxes that make you forget howattention and slowly build up a catalog of astute
much weight you just dialed into the machine. Iobservations in your mind that go along with each one.
reflected on how the gym represents a kind ofThen... when you finally DO get a chance to trade a
"so-near-yet-so-far" deal when it comes to meetingfew words with one of these cuties, rather than
women because while they may be right therestumble and bumble around trying to say something
prancing around covered in sexy sweat, theamazing you'll have something cool and impressive
environment never really seems appropriate foralready locked-and-loaded into your skull: "I saw your
meeting and flirting around as it does in a nightclub.floor set the other day and I was amazed by your ab
People are in a different frame of mind at the gymroutine. You show off the results amazingly well..." you
and often broadcast a variety of non-verbal "staycasually flirt with her, "...any chance that you could take
away" signals that only the boldest dare challenge.me through side-by-side and show me how it's done?
However, after a little experimentation and someI've hit the wall on my old routine, I need a change-up."
intense pondering I think I may have identified a fewAnd so there you've served up a nice little
nuggets hiding amidst this apparent wasteland, such as:personalized compliment that's relevant to the situation
1) If they are locked-up in their own little i-pod universe,AND to her -- and is immediately working to spark her
they are most likely out of reach as far as a DIRECTup with some genuine admiration. Plus, your remark
approach is concerned. I-pods and portable radios aremakes sense to her in this particular situation -- it's not
by far the biggest obstacle to socializing in the gym.just some canned line.
How do you break through to these chicks who areThis is how the High Status Male makes his powerful
encapsulated in their own little world of sound andfirst impression!
obviously trying to lock the rest of us out? You can tryNow you've made a friend that you can engage on a
saying something clever to them, and if they see yourfirst name basis (you remembered to get her name,
lips moving will usually tear the headset off and askright?) whenever you see her around the gym in the
"what?", but their annoyance at having to do so isfuture. And if the vibes (eye contact, smiles, her
apparent and this immediate negative posture is notlaughing at your dumb jokes, etc.) look good, then at
easy to overcome.some point it's perfectly reasonable to step up and
About the only non-intrusive thing you CAN do is makeescalate for a get together outside of the gym... right?
solid eye contact wherever possible and quickly shootThis is sensible, appropriate, measured and steadily
them a friendly smile, without actually saying anythingescalating aggression. Non-aggressive males get
(since she can't hear anyway). If you get a good returnnowhere with women. Remember that.
look from her then you may have a play, but I usually3) Spinning is often the best thing going at the gym
store these up and wait to act on a similar positivebecause it's the closest thing there is to a nightclub-like
read next time, not immediately. Again, I think patienceenvironment... the lights are down and the dance music
is needed here because women seem easily put offis thumping away. The high-cardio spinning pumps up
by intrusions into their mental workout zone -- so youthe same adrenaline and other juicy-juices in the body
have to sort of wear these barriers down first in orderthat dancing does -- and you know how crazy
to set them up for a possible move later on.women are when it comes to dancing!
If you can pull a favorable eye contact reaction like thisOf course, spinning classes and aerobics present the
on future encounters, then a bit of stop-and-chat mightsame type of problems that clubs do in that the noise
be in order and will certainly seem less offensive sinceand "action-distraction" levels make it hard to connect
the girl's given you some cause to open a convo withwith anyone on anything other than a wholly superficial
her. Women know precisely how to use eye contactlevel. But you may have a chance to talk with her
to either chill-out or lure men towards them, so learnduring the warm-ups or cool down after the class
how to follow their signals. While this laid-back sort ofends. Have you got that custom compliment all ready
"ticking" action might be a little too flim-flam for someto go?
of the more impatient among you, if you're looking to4) It's going to take repeated tries to break through.
protect your ego and operate "withoutBecause people are not really in "the mood" in this
embarrassment" as much as possible then watchingenvironment it's tough to create a real buzz on a first
for these subtle signals is the best way to improvemeet. It may take a few encounters to get her thinking
your chances of not getting blown off in public.about you in a romantic sense, if at all -- and so you
2) Have one loaded in the chamber and ready to gohave to play it cool. Pay her attention when it's
at all times. Your chances with women at the gym willappropriate to do so, but never slavishly. Certainly a
almost always seem to arrive out of the blue... afine line has to be walked here. Remember that the
random encounter at a water cooler or while waitingEYES tell the whole story when it comes to women...
to get on a particular machine, etc. So if you're seriouswhen your instincts tell you that you have an
about doing this stuff then you need to haveinterested female nibbling on your line, then that's the
something along the line of a Custom Compliment alltime when you must surrender reason to those
figured out in advance and ready to use as aninstincts and take action.
icebreaker for each and every woman that you mightThis stuff is not rocket science, it's really all about
possibly have any interest in. That's right, each one... sospecific awareness plus some motivation.
keep your radar antenna always out and start payingLet's face it, gyms will probably never be the ideal
attention!environment for meeting women, but these simple
For instance, if you observe a chick who warms upideas may give you a better chance to make a play in
with an elaborate floor routine that's focused on hera poor situation now and then. The way to view this
abs, then make note of it. Watch the routine closelyentire deal is to welcome whatever opportunities you
and spot something unique like a certain move shecan stir up in the gym as an ADJUNCT to your other
does or the extreme number of reps or whateversocial activities -- not as your saving grace or the one
AND REMEMBER THAT. Link it up with somethingplace where you're exclusively hanging out to meet
specific about that girl (give her some private, cutesywomen.
name like "ab-work Annie" in your own head) to formBecause there are far easier ways and means to get
a mental association, and then file this scrap of infoan edge, as we'll discuss in future articles.
away into your memory bank. Some of you will be