| Everyone wants to have a wonderful relationship but | | | | never have a great relationship. If you have a lot of |
| they usually don't seem to make it a priority nor do | | | | responsibilities, strive to eliminate tasks that are |
| they have the right skills. Learning to have an A+ | | | | non-essential. A total commitment to your relationship |
| relationship doesn't have to be hard and boring. You | | | | will help you get your priorities in order. |
| can make it fun and exciting. Getting good grades in | | | | 5) Improve your vocabulary. Your language will |
| your relationship is easier than you might think. | | | | determine your destiny. Do your thoughts and words |
| If you want your relationship to improve, you can | | | | build up your relationship or do they destroy it? |
| change it. Be the one to get things started. Don't whine | | | | Secretly thinking negative things about your partner is |
| that you don't have time for this kind of stuff. Don't | | | | almost as bad as saying them. Fill your mind and your |
| wait for your partner to make the first move. Don't | | | | mouth with words that magnify a wonderful future for |
| take an approach of "I will if you will." You need to be | | | | your relationship. |
| the one who gets it started. | | | | 6) Improve your memory. Remember all of the dates |
| Scoring a low grade in your relationship is an indicator | | | | that are important to your relationship. These include: |
| that you need to change your approach. A wise | | | | anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, and of course, |
| woman once taught me that "If you always do what | | | | Valentine's Day. |
| you've always done; you'll always get what you've | | | | 7) Make sure your study area is comfortable. Clutter |
| always gotten." It doesn't take a rocket scientist to | | | | will distract you from focusing on your relationship. Get |
| figure that one out. Before you change your approach, | | | | caught up on tasks and keep your space clean. It is |
| you need to know what you are shooting for. What is | | | | hard for most women to relax when there are things |
| the ideal vision you have for your relationship? Strive | | | | that need to be done. Most men see a clean home as |
| to be as specific as possible. By being clear about | | | | a reflection of your love for him. |
| what you want to accomplish you are more likely to | | | | 8) Your ability to concentrate on your partner is crucial |
| achieve your desired outcome. | | | | to scoring a higher grade in your relationship. Establish |
| Follow these grade point enhancement strategies and | | | | study rules. Make sure you spend time alone with your |
| you will be on your way to getting the A+ relationship | | | | partner. Your dates don't need to be about addressing |
| you have always wanted: | | | | the problems in your relationship. The agenda needs to |
| 1) Take time to assess what kind of partner you truly | | | | be about promoting the love you have for each other. I |
| are. You can't start to improve until you know who | | | | don't recommend a specific date night for most |
| you are and how you actually perform. It is easy to | | | | couples but do schedule time together and whatever |
| fool yourself into believing that you know all there is to | | | | you do, don't miss this class. |
| know about relationships. Even the experts will tell you | | | | 9) Get a tutor or join a study group. If you realize you |
| that there is always more to be learned. | | | | are really lacking in skills then I suggest you get help. |
| 2) Hold onto the hope that you can score a high grade | | | | Seek the guidance of a therapist or join some type of |
| in your relationship. Positive expectation is an | | | | group that promotes relationship skills. Churches tend |
| extremely powerful position. You become what you | | | | to provide classes for instruction. These environments |
| think about. See yourself as a great partner. See your | | | | allow you to trade notes with others and learn from |
| partner as being extremely fulfilled in a relationship with | | | | their successes and failures. |
| you. | | | | 10) Pay attention to what you are doing during the |
| 3) Keep away from people who try to belittle your | | | | times you are really close and getting along. Do this |
| efforts. Negative people always try to make you feel | | | | consistently. If you need help identifying these patterns, |
| stupid about trying to be better. In school, I remember | | | | I suggest you pull out old photographs of when the |
| the bright students were commonly considered uncool | | | | two of you first started dating. Back then you knew |
| or nerdy for getting good grades. I see people who | | | | how to score big points with each other. How did you |
| are afraid to show their partner love and respect for | | | | think, talk, and act back then? I worked once and most |
| fear of what others might say or think. Don't get | | | | likely will work again. |
| caught up in these concerns. Surround yourself with | | | | Just think what being a top student in your relationship |
| people who have A+ relationships and are proud to | | | | will mean for you? No more hassles with C's or D's. |
| love and respect their mate. | | | | No more worries about conflicts and dissatisfaction. |
| 4) Don't spend too much time deliberating when you | | | | You are the one who will choose your own place in |
| will commit yourself to becoming a great partner. Just | | | | your relationship. Make the best choice, and then go |
| do it. If you wait for the perfect time or a time in which | | | | for it with everything you have within you. |
| you are caught up on your list of things to do, you'll | | | | |